Even though you are ending your marriage with your spouse, you will likely still have to be in each other’s lives for the sake of your child. With this, you should work together to figure out how to co-parent. Read on to discover some tips for co-parenting after your divorce and how one of the seasoned New Jersey child visitation attorneys at Haber Silver Russoniello & Dunn can guide you in the right direction.
What are the benefits of co-parenting?
Ultimately, you and your spouse should have your child’s best interest as a top priority. For this reason alone, you must establish a successful co-parenting relationship. With that being said, your child can benefit from healthy co-parenting in the following ways:
- Your child will feel more secure with the love you and your spouse have for them.
- Your child will feel more secure if there is consistency between your and your spouse’s rules and households.
- Your child will have a healthy example of problem-solving and teamwork to follow.
- Your child will have a healthy example of relationships to follow.
- Your child will be mentally healthier.
What are some tips for co-parenting?
One of the most important co-parenting tips you can follow is to separate your personal relationship with your spouse from your co-parenting relationship. Meaning, you must compartmentalize any feelings of anger, resentment, or hurt so that they do not affect how you work together to support your child. Instead, you should vent your feelings in another outlet, such as by talking to a friend, relative, or therapist.
Another tip you can follow is to avoid putting your child in the middle of your and your spouse’s arguments or making them feel like they have to choose a side. Meaning, you should not speak badly about your spouse to your child and you should not have your child be the messenger between you two. Instead, you should speak with your spouse directly about any grievances.
Additional tips are as follows:
- Commit to meeting or talking consistently about your child.
- Keep conversations child-focused.
- Make medical, education, and financial decisions regarding your child as a team.
- Agree on similar rules and disciplines to apply to your child.
- Agree on similar schedules to apply to your child.
- Be considerate of the court-ordered child custody agreement in place.
- Make your child’s transition to different households a positive experience.
- Learn how to compromise.
- Learn how to respect one another.
For more advice, you must consult with one of the competent New Jersey child custody attorneys. Schedule your initial consultation with us today.